Let us replace the word “toxic” in our cultural lexicon in reference to the human condition; our collective struggle through layers of suffering. It’s pathologizing. It is psychologically othering in terms of projecting unwanted qualities and experiences outside of ourselves, onto others that we then need to then stay away from.
No one wants to identify with being a toxic person or feel like they have toxicity living inside of them. It’s a substance we want to rid ourselves of immediately in order to not suffer the consequences of being poisonous.
This kind of thinking and labeling is part of how we get addicted to “clearing” out negative energy or thinking anything “negative” or uncomfortable we feel is because of someone else. It is what makes us scared of ourselves, unable to be present or intimate with our own depths.
In your wholeness, you are everything.
You are light and love and darkness and hate. You are anger and rage and the utmost compassion and radiance imaginable.
We are also wounded humans living in a world that not only perpetuates wounding but profits off it. Our culture is not literate in the language of the soul or pain or grief.
So, we other it, project it out into others and make them “toxic” or people that do not serve our highest good. It perpetuates this idea that we are somehow untarnished and other people are the problem. Sometimes it is our very wounding that seeks out people who make us uncomfortable in order to try to get our attention for healing.
What if we replaced this word “toxic” with the word wounded?