Consumerism is wrapped around everything from the food we eat, to the clothes we wear, to the way we are taught to approach our own healing.
If we want to make more money, we must heal our trauma.
If we want more of this or less of that, if we want a different lifestyle, we must heal ourselves.
If we don't have the things we are taught we are supposed to "want" or "have" to match the ill-fated picture of the American Dream, then we haven't done enough healing or "work" on ourselves.
This is the negative mother parenting us through our cultural paradigm in spades.
It's a negative mother who will not let up because she controls us through our internal sense of lack and not enoughness that drives our desire to satisfy what is truly a spiritual hunger for reconnection with the elemental feminine. But instead, we get distracted with trying to construct some picture of "perfection" to the point that we are now attacking our internal psychic life if there are wounds or emotions that do not measure up to what the negative mother (outside world) expects of us.
Healing is not a weapon to be using on ourselves, or each other.
Spirituality a not competition of how perfect and of the light we appear to be.
The purpose of healing is not to realize some state of internal or external perfection so that we can be free.
Healing is about creating the inner environment of freedom and love itself, within all of who we are. The good, the bad and the ugly.
Healing is love, tending, nourishing, compassion, nurturing, grieving, listening, safety, honoring. It is ultimately a path for regaining our sanity and restoring our connection to our basic nature; establishing a foundation of a spiritual source of love in the center of our hearts.
Life changes when we heal from our complexes, codependency and addictions. It shifts, often to something more simple and less crowded with things that don't matter.
Real wholeness doesn't include an energy of aggression towards the self through "healing."
When we heal, we need less. Our inner constellation of parent/child or mind/heart/body are moving in more unison and there is a sense of well-being that feels the richness of the moment itself. It doesn't have anything to do with being perfect.
Perfect is a word that has been hijacked by a patriarchal culture because perfection is oppressive. If we are distracted by this healing project of making ourselves perfect, we won't notice how the world is falling apart around us. If we are distracted by our addictions and seeking, we won't care about our impact on the world because we are looking for the right thing that will fill the void or the perfect healer who will rescue us.
No one can rescue us. No one can heal us.
Perfection is an illusion that causes us to destroy the very fabric of our humanity. It's a symptom of an unmothered heart.
If you are unmothered, there is nothing wrong with you.
Your value is innate in the core of who you are. That unbroken, untouched part of you that got you where you are today, that helped you survive. That is your power, your strength that once you recognize as the love that has been pulling you along all this time, you can redirect it into a life-affirming future instead of trying to unconsciously wrangle yourself into some form that has to do with your past.
If you are unmothered, it is not your fault.
Many mothers have not been mothered. We lost connection with the great mother a long time ago and it is she who we are starving for. It is the unmothered heart that understands this more than anyone else. It is an act of sacred activism to remember this and resurrect an internal movement back to her and away from the negative mother holding "perfection" over your head as a standard for being worthy of love.
If you are unmothered, your heart knows a vast power and capacity for holding all the feels of the world.
Remember that your own feels, your. own heart, your own gifts, your own beauty are real, reside within you and shine regardless of whether it was recognized or not. That healing your own inner parent offers you the opportunity to finally recognize the beauty, wisdom, power, strength and gifts that is you.
The innate, powerful part of you that got you this far IS the perfection. It cannot be controlled or oppressed. To channel this energy within you away from survival, because that is all an addiction to consumption will give us.
It's time to channel that innate power into thriving is what will change everything. Thriving is abundance, it is a soul filled with health, joy, love and prosperity that is connected to an inner wealth that can never, ever be taken away.
This, this is true healing.