Scarcity is not a mindset but a lack of love.
It is a symptom of the wound of separation that is passed down the mother line. It is the way that the collective wound of patriarchy is transmitted into our bones through thousands of years of building a world idolizing the rational, provable and profitable.
Scarcity is a lack of connection, primarily to the elemental feminine soul, but mostly also it is a disconnection from love and the source of life itself. Nature. The earth. Our natural world we are meant to be a part of.
One of the major symptoms we experience through the influence of the death mother culture is scarcity. A scarcity of internal resources, a scarcity of feeling connected to love, nourishment and trust in the nature of life itself.
It is a symptom of a broken heart.
The "patriarchy” doesn’t have to just do with men or the masculine principle. Everything is a part of the wholeness and the wholeness lives within all things. There is also very much a feminine counterpart to the patriarchy, a system designed to function through domination, control and power.
This is a system that rose from the transition of worshipping mother nature to seeking to domination not only over mother earth but over our own feminine nature deeply tied to the earth body itself.
The death mother is the counterpart to the death father. These are archetypal energies that exist in the collective psyche. If they did not, there wouldn’t be the kind of situations we are dealing with on the earth at this time.
These archetypal energies influence each of us and are confounded even more if they’ve also arrived into the blueprint of our nervous systems via our actual parents.
The death mother is the shadow part of the feminine who seeks to express herself through power, domination and control of the elemental feminine, of the soul of both men and women. She represents the "cultural subjugation of the wild and unruly feminine (Toko-pa)" and to survive she's become like the death father in order to thrive. Her soul was stolen and now she steals to feel like she has one.
There are so many patterns we learned to survive as children that are ways of being that are acceptable, almost cherished qualities, in our consumer driven, future focused society; one that idealizes perfection as a goal wildly unattainable by the nature of being human.
These internal patterns and habits of perfectionism and people pleasing are soul killers.
They further the split between our "ideal" self and our inner, tender, feeling and creative nature. It creates a deep divide between the wise animal of our body and the divine nature of our hearts.
Perfectionism and people pleasing are expressions of the soul wound, not who we really are individually or as a culture. But, these very pattens enforce us to not reveal the truth of our pain, the roots of our habits because it will wreak havoc to a system that relies on our pain remaining out of our awareness. This leads many to feel ashamed of the truth of their hearts, the wisdom of their bodies, true purpose or calling, or the particular ways genius wants to be expressed in the world.
Yes, we cannot see or recognize things that are outside of our awareness. It's a funny thing, so many teachings about how we create our reality when half of the equation doesn't take into consideration our incapacity to see or imagine or recognize or live outside of our level of consciousness. Trauma, in this way, is like a trance that we are living in...relationally, in the world and then in our own inner world. So, as much as we long for and desire love, we equate love with things that are NOT love and must unlearn that in order to begin to resonate with something different in our life.
We learn in the trauma bonds with our parents the their pathology, so love is wrapped up in either trying to seek and fix and get love, or trying to control. One person is the clinger and one the runner, or whatever. We develop labels - narcissist and empath/borderline, twin flame love, ascended partnership....we have an innate desire for intense bonding with another human and it plays out through the relational patterns of trauma bonding wired in our nervous system. Our mind cannot over ride this. It is energetic. It is emotional. It is the body.
It is in healing, that we start to come into deeper contact with the true energy of love as we unravel it from pain. This is the equation, to unravel the love from the pain and then heal the pain. There is nothing wrong with being in pain other than not knowing how to love it because no one taught us or love us in pain.
Trauma always has gifts in it's folds. The trauma itself is NOT a gift and it didn't happen FOR you but you have the ability to come through the trauma and receive more wisdom and strength and abilities to understand and know this kind of darkness, which is always, always an asset on the path. And, as you continue this healing work, you deepen your relationship with Source and your spiritual gifts start to reveal themselves to you. One of the side effects of trauma no one likes to talk about because our society profits off of it, is a disconnection from source and spirit. So, the more medicated you are the more you will consume and look outside rather than mend that bond. When you mend that bond, your spiritual gifts reveal themselves and strengthen like the gold poured into the cracks and holes in the caverns of broken places.
We cannot deny others the dignity of coming into conscious relationship with their inner life and, therefore, into conscious contact with Source. We cannot metabolize or take on the suffering of others in any way that is useful to anyone. When we attempt to meet others' in their pain and suffering by taking on that emotional energy and then processing through it ourselves, this is energetic co-dependence. It is an unconscious movement towards seeking safety and connection, towards attempting to escape what is feeling uncomfortable. It is also a survival mechanism many of us learned as children.
What we see in the world around us and in the suffering hearts of those we love often stirs up discomfort, scary feelings of powerlessness to change anything or overwhelming love. We want to do something. We want things to change so we can feel safe and, more importantly, we can experience loving connection. As children, we wanted connection and attention. We still do. It's what we are wired for and our psyches will find any strategy to get there. Unfortunately, these habits become so embedded in our cultural psyche that we start to think this is normal. Normal is not necessarily healthy. Normal is not necessarily love.
The best thing we can do is tend to our hearts, look at our triggers and heal our matches, heal our relationship to emotions and discover the essence of what love really is. This will help us first heal and having a conscious relationship with ourselves and source, then we can truly be present with another without losing ourselves or seeking our wholeness in another soul wound. We each have a soul wound. One of the most empowering practices I have found is learning how to harness my soul wound for spiritual power and as a path of connection to source and well-being, rather than something that needs to be fixed or soothed by things outside of me (or in bottles of wine).
Bringing true presence and love and compassion isn't about rescuing anyone from themselves or taking on grieving for the collective, it is almost a distraction and a perpetuation of early emotional trauma. It's all pointing the way towards our own healing so we can truly hold space and LIFT EACH OTHER UP rather than us all diving down into the trenches to take on each other's pain in an endless cycle. I'm a huge stand for unravelling this energetic co-dependence and healing the emotional soul wound that is at the heart of what is driving this patriarchal narrative. One. Step. At. A. Time. I am here as a guide, to hold space and walk the path with you and empower you to know your heart. I am here if you truly want freedom. Only you can do your work, but you don't have to do it alone