Grief is our natural response to the transitory nature of life. It is complex and can be overwhelming and confusing. It is a part of our human experience, our aliveness.
You do not grieve for things you do not care about. It is an act of love. It connects you with what is most deeply precious and sacred in the heart of your heart. It clears the pathway to a soul-centered life.
There are layers to it that can make midwifing your way through challenging and obscure.
You grieve for the loss of the person/object/situation.
You grieve for the loss of the relationship you had with what has been lost.
You grieve for the parts of you attached, identified and connected to what has been lost.
Sometimes grief arrives in a mixture, swirling around and overwhelming the heart. It can feel scary to surrender to this initiation deeper into the truths of love, life and the divine nature of this human experience. It can completely re-arrange you and evolve you closer to the nature of who you really are.
This is navigating the in-between. Honoring what has been lost, metabolizing the emotions and complexities of the relationship and allowing the parts of you that need to die so that a new you can emerge. It's not always easy to tell up from down, what is what. We have a tendancy to want the process to be linear, to have clearly defined stages, something to hold on to. But, sometimes holding on keeps us from understanding. From that understanding is birthed curiosity and the seeds of love we need for becoming real.
Grief teaches you to become real. It is the holy devotion of your heart to what matters most to you about life. It is alive. Grief is love.