If we are not careful, before we know it, resistance can become a way of being and moving through the world. It can become a way of life that in and of itself blocks you from engaging with all that is possible within yourself. Resistance is a form of fear. Fear of what? Fear of life force energy, a fear of life. We often experience resistance at moments of growth, moments where life is propelling us in the direction of our highest growth, in the creative process, anytime we have transformed ourselves into a new level of life.
It happens in the in-between spaces, in the gap or void where the alchemy of transformation is possible. The opposite of resistance is letting go and surrendering, often to trusting the universe or some power that is greater than our small human beings can comprehend. The opposite of resistance is trust; it is relaxing. It is feeling.
Resistance takes so many forms. Perfectionism. Addiction. Procrastination. Spiritual escape into “bliss.” Chronic lateness. Feeling like we know everything already. Seeking a magical solution. Difficulty receiving. Anxiety. Depression. Creative blocks. Staying stuck. Self-criticism. Avoidance. And on and on.
Resistance protects us from life. It protects us from the truth. It also protects us from grief and feeling. What I notice is that beneath a lot of resistance is a range of emotions and feelings. Energy. Makes sense since resistance is often a way of blocking out life and the energy of life. Life force energy is creative, sexual, emotional, symbolic, love, clear and always oriented towards pulling us closer and closer to our wholeness.
Why do we resist this so much? Trauma. Fear of change. Fear of emotions. Fear we aren’t lovable as we are. We live in a trauma culture, one that perpetuates it and profits off of it. We do not live in a culture that celebrates the fullness of life force and the glorious fullness of all that we are. When we experience trauma, and all trauma includes spiritual and emotional trauma, our perception of the divine, the universe and what we can allow ourselves to experience of life force energetically is limited. Our nervous systems become encoded in such a way that we are blocked. One of the biggest symptoms I see from trauma is a disconnection from source energy, love and a difficulty trusting life. It develops resistance. We all have it. We also resist healing our soul wounds because perhaps we don't know how.
Resistance is a part of the human experience but once we come to understand it, we can harness it as a part of our path towards wholeness. Not all resistance is the same. Once you understand how your own soul energy (we all have our own soul archetypal medicine we came here to master), it becomes a way to come even closer to yourself rather than staying stuck. Healing the soul wound brings you back into conscious relationship with the language of your inner being.